[queenofnerds]

Thanks dwain, I will give this a go. Maybe I have been looking on the negative side for too long. Gonna buy the book today!

I have been telling him that I am not sure how I feel anymore and perhaps that is creating even more of a gap between us. Gonna try to be more possitive from now on.

[travvyishot]

so i'm in love for the first time in years. i'm fucking terrifiiiiiiied. i got so used to just chasing tail, going with the flow, and not really caring. i'm kinddddd of a nervous wreck now.

....ah, love

[Jordan~]

Wonderful and terrible and frightening and comforting love. Sigh...

[sadie]

Someone told me today that they thought I was cute, then informed me that it was written by their friend and that I was weird. Lovely.

I replied with hashtags.

[LawnsOfDawns]

So, I have sort of a conundrum.

I posted months ago in the "woo life" thread about a new boyfriend, and how great everything was. Things have just continued to become even greater, and I am now fairly convinced that it may take years and years to find someone like him again.

However, there are complications.

I am his first boyfriend. He has never been in a relationship, or with another dude, (although he's slept with girls) and it would be fucked up for me to not give him that freedom at some point.
He is about to graduate university, and he doesn't know what he is going to do. We both live in California. I am about to go to medical school. Don't know where yet, but I didn't get in anywhere in California. This sort of means that if I go away to school, we are going to have to break up. I can't imagine spending a week without him, let alone breaking up. We spend every day together! On the other hand, I'd never ask him to move with me, because he still hasn't had his opportunity to go explore his sexuality on his own. I've been dating since I was 15, and it simply wouldn't be fair.

GUYS WHAT DO I DOOOOO?????

[Andrew]

That sucks!

When you talk about giving him 'freedom' to 'explore his sexuality', is that not something that can happen within your relationship, as it continues to develop? Or is his relative inexperience an expressed insecurity of his? Have you asked him about it?

Are you a fairly jealous person (by which I mean, like, the standard jealousy level of the average monogamous person)? Is he? Letting him 'explore' does not have to mean the death of the relationship.

You don't have to break up if you move away. Long-distance relationships can work, but only with a lot of dedication, and they get more difficult with distance (I mean, I messed up a long-distance relationship, and the distance was really nowhere near the kind of distance you're describing (it seems crazy to me, sometimes, that America is so big!)). Also, if you're okay with letting him 'explore', then asking to maintain that kind of relationship doesn't have to be asking him to make a vow of celibacy.

If he's fairly mobile (in terms of family, work etc.) then asking him to move with you isn't a half bad idea, but you really have to consider the strength of the current relationship as living together permanently is far different from meeting up daily (how long have you been together?)

If the desire to stay together is strong enough, then I'm sure you can make it work you just have to seriously talk it through with him! Understand all the doubts and insecurities he may have before you make a plan, lest they rear up later and throw a spanner in the works!

[Jordan~]

Think you'd be okay with an open relationship?

[Godspeed You!]

Ok, so I have this huge, I mean HUGE crush on a girl.
Her name is Cecilia, she comes from Mexico and attends my same university and until last week I had just talked to her a few times and thougth she was cool but never spent much time with her. This week we had the same lessons and I got the chance to know her better and on wednesday I asked her if she wanted to hang out for the afternoon, so we went to her appartment after school, listened to some music, went out for a walk and met other folks from uni, then we went back to her appartment and had dinner together. We had a great time and on fryday she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her again and we spent pretty much the whole afternoon in a wonderful park. Everything was just perfect.

Now I know she's the best person I've ever met, I feel great when I'm with her and I'm so happy I met her.
On friday, at the park, I wanted to kiss her so bad but at the same time I was afraid I would have ruined what was goin on...

Then again we have just one more week together and the second semester will begin, wich means that we will both be very busy and have different lessons and no more time to spend together (at least not that much) and it really feels like I must do something soon but I'm obviously afraid that she doesn't feel the same way as I do..

What do you guys think I should do?

Oh, and I'm sorry for interrupting the previous discussion but I really needed to talk about that.

[Gerritsón]

Well of course you tell her how you feel! Can't leave such questions open forever can you..
Nah, that's my advice, and it's the obvious advice. Good luck!

[dwaink]

"spill the wine, dig that girl"

don't go through life regretting that u let her get away without trying(don't be rude or obnoxious)don't fear rejection or attachment...be yerself

dwain

[Godspeed You!]

[milkisobel]

[Andrew]

Not that you two aren't pretty, but I'm really distracted by the three guys in the background. What are they doing? Fooling around with an ouija board? Performing an Unbreakable Vow? Organising a ménage à trois? Scheming against the two of you?

[LawnsOfDawns]

Andrew, thanks for the advice!

I am not a jealous person per se. I am totally fine with him going out to club with friends, or basically do anything at all. I trust him quite a bit, because we are pretty fucking devoted to each other. That's the problem--I think I'd have a lot of trouble with an open relationship. I'll do what I have to to keep him, but still, I could see problems. I could see a late reply to a text turn into a night of anxiety, worrying, and suffering quickly. Although I am not jealous, I'm not very fit compared to my boyfriend, and combining that issue with my problems with anxiety, this could quickly turn into a slippery slope...


BTW, @milkisobel, that picture looks soooooooo european to me as an american

[queenofnerds]

Awwww you guys are so cute

[Gerritsón]

Yeah it makes me melt seeing those two together. Smiling and all that, so cute.

[polliwog]

Great picture! Always happy to see new pictures of tadpoles. btw, the guy on the far left looks like he is wearing a big long hat or helmet.

[Ann]

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay, how lovely!

[ursulabear]

I want your dress, Milki.

[Riv]

Awww! You two are super cute .