[ursulabear]

[Gerritsón]

Ok. And you have the right to do whatever you want to do But it seems strange to me, on the one hand you tell that you feel lonely, but on the other hand you don't want to meet people..

[ursulabear]

It is strange, to me too. I do feel lonely, but when I go out and see the tedious conversations people have, I just want to go home.

[Jordan~]

I think it's called isolation.

[milkisobel]

[Steve]

[Weirdelves]

I really don't understand that sort of perspective on meeting new people. Sure, a lot of people have tedious and bland conversations, but I also know a good amount of fascinating, hilarious, intelligent and nurturing people and I want nothing more than to spend my time with them. I'm hardly ever alone.

When I am I really appreciate it, but I like the opportunity to meet new people. Although I'm usually a little disappointed by the people I meet, there are still a huge number who surprise and impress, and I'll take every opportunity I get to get out there and meet new people. If you don't go out, how will you be able to find the great potential friends hiding in the metaphorical mud?

[Jordan~]

I'm with Steve and Milki and Ursula, in reverse chronological order, though Tom and Gerben probably have the attitude more likely to make them happy. Or you guys are just extraverted and the rest of us aren't. Going out usually makes me want to go home, especially if people I don't already know are involved. I never feel more isolated than when I'm in a group of strangers.

There are people I like who I don't make friends with because, well, what are you supposed to do? Meet someone and invite them out on a friend-date? Call them up and say, "Hey, let's socialise more often!"? It seems weird and frightening and I don't know the protocol. I think all the friends I currently have I made via the first friend I ever made, excepting Internet friends and a few Cambridge folks. People joined the group with other people and stayed when they left. I make friends by an agglutinative process. The first friend I made by playing a game involving hiding under your head from the other player under a desk and trying not to be caught hiding when I was 5, on the first day of school. We got on well because he was happy to be Vice-King of the Playground until I abdicated.

[Gerritsón]

[ursulabear]

I am extroverted! I am outgoing and friendly and well liked. I think that the more time you spend away, isolated from people, the less you want to be with them. I have lovely times with my friends, I just can't be bothered to go out.
And I do know there are lovely wonderful entertaining people out there. But it takes so much time to find said people.

[queenofnerds]

It's kind of strange but I don't mind being with a group of people as long as I don't have to entertain. Quite happy being swept along with the fun.

Love gigs for instance, because I can be anonymous and a part of something larger.

[Jordan~]

[rainbowdash]

[dwaink]

people are wonderful treasure troves of teaching, and every one of them has some special thing u need to learn from them, the trick of course is figuring out what that lesson is
the trouble of course is that our wisdom is so clouded with delusion that we don't know whom is a Buddha and whom is not, but there is a bright sunny blue sky day out there, if we can only raise the blinds on our "window"
bear i would give the advice to practice finding the string that opens these blinds with everyone u meet, the result may astonish u happily sometime
don't push or pull, just watch and learn

dwain

[ursulabear]

My favourite way to get 'people time' in is sitting on a bench at the mall, watching the people and wondering what they do in their lives. I do have friends, I just feel sort of different from them. My closest friends never come to my house because they feel like they are from a different class from my family. Even though they don't.
When I start school in January, I'll actually be spending time with people, and I'm bound to make some friends.

[queenofnerds]

I am a grump at the mo. Infecting all those around me with the grump.

[Jordan~]

Also grumpy, but I can probably cure that with nicotine. I hate living with my parents. I can't wake up without it being a war atrocity. No "Good morning!" or "Hello!" or "How are you?", just looking at the clock and, "...Seven hours?" Yes! Seven hours! I am abject in my contrition! Beat me, beat me for my calculated insult of sleep! I am wretched, I am wretched! MIND YOUR OWN GOD DAMN BUSINESS, DO I TACKLE YOU TO THE GROUND AND SCREAM AT YOU ABOUT WHEN YOU WOKE UP EVERY TIME YOU HAVE THE EXTREME AUDACITY TO BE CONSCIOUS IN MY PRESENCE!? NO I DO NOT! BECAUSE I TREAT YOU LIKE A HUMAN BEING, NOT GOD DAMN PROPERTY! I can't stand up in this house without someone asking what I'm doing! I'm minding my own business, that's what I'm doing! It's this new thing they have where you don't ask people inane, prying questions about crap! Go to hell!

[queenofnerds]

I hope it wasn't my grump managing to somehow infect through the internets

Aww I remember hating my parents till I left home and I didn't leave till I was 24. It's always hard because you are an adult too so you need your own space but they own the space you are living in so it puts their noses out of joint if you seem a little annoyed that your privacy is being invaded. It's temporary, try to understand them even though they can be a pain in the arse sometimes parents.

[ursulabear]

God I can;t wait to move out of my parent's house. They are so goddamn oppressive. They rule with an iron fist, and I can't really express myself. The yell at me for being a freak, for being weird, for liking things macabre, for my sexuality. It's god-awful.

[Jordan~]